Leadership Development

A Year in Review

College is weird. Growing up is weird. Life is just simply weird. This is ultimately what I have learned this year.

I don’t know what my expectations of college were but I can tell you I could not have imagined what I have experienced. School this year has been wonderful. I have cried. I have laughed. I have laughed until I cried. I have had so many new experiences. I am a completely different person than I was at the beginning of this school year. I absolutely loved myself and who I was when I came to school so this actually is weird for me to say. Why change things that are already good? Well because there is always room for growth. I am so different than I was before this year and I am so happy about it. I now know how to love as deeply as possible. I now know how important it is to make yourself uncomfortable sometimes. I now know that it can be a good thing to disagree with people, for how else would we really find out who we are and who we are not? I now know that people are so different and appreciating these differences is the most wonderful thing that this world could possibly do. I know that people and things change and this can be really hard but it is usually for the better. I have learned to open up; to hold the people close to you even tighter. I have learned ultimately that life is really good even when it doesn’t seem that way to the eye.

The people that I have been surrounded with are the reasons that I have learned the things that I have. I have found my people here at Central which is so so special and crazy considering the fact that I had no idea who most of these people were a year ago. These people are crazy weird. I have never met people this fun and open and truly genuine. I have been so blessed to call the people below some of my best friends. To start off, I’ll just start with my roomies.

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Allie is my person. This is something that I have known for much longer than the past year. Allie and I came into college as high school best friends and are leaving as lifelong best friends. After this year I really and truly think my life would end without Allie. Allie has taught me how to care so much while simultaneously being spontaneous as hell and doing whatever comes at you. Allie has her shit together. She doesn’t think she does, but compared to most people our age, she’s pretty much superwoman. We call her mom for good reason and that’s because she generally knows what the responsible and right thing to do is. The best part about this is that she’ll be standing right behind you to support you even if you choose to do the not-so-responsible thing. Allie is this spicy ray of sunshine that can be so brutally honest and tell you what you need to hear rather than what you want to hear but also be the one to pick you up and push you further when you fall down. I think it is easy to be either the person who is always picking people up or the person who is always being real with everyone, but I think it is so special and amazing to be both of those people at the same time which is what Allie is to me. We don’t always see eye to eye but the friendship and bond that Allie and I have is completely unbreakable. I cannot see this life without Allie.

Now, Julia. Julia is just a ball of fun. Julia is the person that constantly reminds me that it is okay to do whatever the heck you want sometimes. Sometimes you need to stay up until 2am laughing just because even though you have an exam at 8am and that’s something that Julia reminds me. Julia has taught me that everyone is different but everyone is perfect. My favorite part about Julia is that she recognizes and constantly reminds those around her that we don’t have to do everything exactly right to be wonderful. Julia is understanding and genuinely cares about everyone around her. Julia is not afraid to be spontaneous and has a mind that is so deep and complex that she cannot focus on just one thing at a time. Julia wants to make everyone happy and wants to change the entire world all at once. Julia has so much passion and desire that she cannot contain it and this is what I admire from Julia the most. I only had the opportunity to live with Julia for one semester but I can tell you second semester was way more interesting than first and I can’t help but think that this is largely in part to Julia Nachman.

Anyone who lives in Barnes Hall also knows that I have some honorary roommates, also known as room 108. Room 109 and room 108 might as well have been combined because we all pretty much had entrance rights to each others rooms at all times anyways. Room 108 consisted of Kyle, Noah, Thomas, and Jake. I can honestly say these boys are some of the best friends that I have had and will have in my entire life.

I don’t even know where to start with Kyle. Kyle drives me absolutely nuts with his constant need to make noise and move but I wouldn’t change it for the world because he is my go-to when I need some entertainment. Kyle knows how to make people laugh. Kyle can twerk better than any girl I’ve ever known and also has the best impressions of anyone out there. Kyle is one of those people that you naturally just let go around. Kyle is the most sarcastic person I have ever met but after getting to know him and his sarcasm, I have learned that Kyle is one of the most genuine people I’ve ever met. Kyle has taught me to always shoot for the stars and to do whatever makes you happy.

Now, Noah. Where do I even start. Noah is like the one I go to when I need a light heart. Whether it’s some constructive criticism, just a late night conversation, or a person to make me laugh, Noah is so light-hearted and sincere about everything that he does. Noah has taught me that it is okay to say whatever you want to say but to think about what you say first. Noah has never said something that he doesn’t mean and he has never said anything without true knowledge and reason behind it which I respect so highly. Even when Noah and I do not see eye-to-eye, I respect what he has to say because he has thought it through and has valid reasoning to say what he is. Noah is thoughtful and kind. Noah is truly the kind of person that I hope that my future children grow up to be. Thank you Noah for teaching me how to work for what you want and how to constantly push yourself to be a better person even when you are already one of the most kind and generous people that I have ever met.

Thomas is just one of those people that you want to be around. Thomas has this innocence about him that draws you to him. People want to be around him because Thomas is fun, and reminds us that growing old is inevitable but growing up is a choice. I want to clarify that this is such an admirable thing. Thomas is in no way childish, he just knows when it’s okay to stop ‘adulting’. Thomas also sees the good in everything. I have always considered myself to be an optimistic person but since meeting Thomas, he has upped that bar. Thomas is the kind of person that will sit with you for hours just to try to make a bad situation seem good. He is the person that will tell you whatever you need to hear to make you smile. Thomas doesn’t do it on purpose and I’m not even sure he really knows that he does it, but Thomas constantly pushes those around him to do and be better.

Jake Eaton. Jake is one of the greatest people I have ever had the pleasure of meeting. When I first met Jake I could have never imagined the impact that he would have on me and my life. Jake is, for a lack of better words, real as hell. We all go through life meeting people and letting them see whatever it is that we choose to let them (which usually isn’t much at all). We then meet people that we open up and talk to about our lives and how the things that we are going through and dealing with are affecting us. And then sometimes, you meet people that pull the things out of you that you didn’t even know lived inside. This is what Jake Eaton is to me. Jake Eaton is unbelievably loyal and full of love. Jake Eaton cares more about other people than most. Jake has taught me that it is okay to let things out because that is the only way to get rid of them. Jake is the kind of person that you can sit up until sunrise with, talking about nothing and everything all at the same time. The friendship that I have made with Jake has taught me to see people as they are. Do not judge a book by its cover but do not assume that what is on the outside is necessarily different than what is on the inside either. Jake has an amazing ability to make people feel special. Whether it is a stranger he met on the street, or a long lost best friend, Jake can make you feel like the most important person in the world. I can honestly say that Jake Eaton is single-handedly one of the most down-to-earth and kind people that I have ever had the pleasure of knowing.

Our last honorary roomie that does not live in 108 or 109 is Lucas Gustafson. For anyone who knows Lucas, you can probably assume what I am about to say. Lucas Gustafson is the greatest person to walk this earth. I am absolutely certain that there is nothing in this world that could prevent Lucas from being able to make me smile. Lucas knows how to make people feel like they are worth his time. Lucas will do anything for anyone no matter what the consequences. I would trust Lucas with my life and people who do not know Lucas would think I’m crazy but anyone who has ever spent 10 minutes with him knows that there is no better person in this world to trust with your entire existence. Lucas has taught me that at the end of the day what matters is what you did to make someone else’s day/life better. Whether you simply made someone crack a smile or you changed their life, wake everyday with the intention to make a difference in someone else.

Next are the people that have been forced into my life by family trees and an everlasting love for cows. While I didn’t chose these people to walk into my life, I’ve never been more grateful for something than the fact that they did. Morgan, Susie, and Derek are three people that I could not imagine my crazy life without anymore.

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Morgan is my mentor. I talk about her in probably every blog post ever because she has had the biggest impact on me in the last nine months than anyone. Morgan truly is the person I wish I was. Morgan is beautiful inside and out. Morgan is amazingly talented and smart. Morgan has more wisdom than anyone I’ve ever met and she is one year older than I am. Morgan has taught me so much more than I could ever fit into a paragraph. The impact that Morgan has had in my life is something that will absolutely never go away and I will never forget. I don’t think that Morgan realizes that who she is is the kind of person that leaves a mark on every single persons life that she ever comes in contact with. I truly believe that if everyone had a Morgan in their life, this world would be such a different place.

Now, Derek Sturvist. Derek just speaks the truth. Derek will not hold back in his beliefs and I admire him more than he will ever know for this. Derek is the most passionate person I have, and believe that I will ever, meet in this life time. His passion shines through in everything he does. Derek also is one of those people that knows how to make someone feel wanted and special. Derek makes people feel like they have a purpose and like their existence generally matters to the destiny of this earth. While I’m not sure that he actually believes that sometimes, he has this ability to make others feel like they can do and accomplish whatever they want.

Susie. Oh my goodness. Susie is the person I wish I was but simply never will be because the personality that she has is one that you are either born with or you are not. Susie does what she wants when she wants but simultaneously does everything she does for the betterment of other people. Susie rode in a car with me for 10 hours last night when we had a research paper due this morning solely because I wanted to meet my mentee (Hannah who is absolutely amazing, but I will boast about her another time) but did not want to ride alone. Susie is dedicated and loyal. Susie says what she is thinking and does not hold back what she is feeling. Susie has taught me the meaning behind the phrase “you only live once” and it is that you literally have to do whatever the hell you want to do now because you may never get another chance to. I was absolutely blessed to have Susie walk into my life and I could never imagine my life without her.

So these are my people. These are the people that bring the best (and sometimes worst) out of me every single day and I could not be more thankful for every single one of them. Thank you for challenging me and showing me what it looks like to be an amazing person. Thank you for always giving me a shoulder to cry on, no matter the time of day. And thank you for being the kind of people that make this world better by simply existing.

The relationships and people that I have met here at CMU remind of the the Social Change Theory of leadership. This theory says that individuals bring their own personal skills and abilities to a group or relationship in which they can combine their skills and create something bigger than themselves. That is exactly what these relationships and people do every single day. I could not be who I am without them and who I am is someone that wants to impact something larger than myself. We could not have the impact on each others lives and the rest of the world without the skills that we individually bring out in each other.

Leadership Development, Leadership Training

Mentor/Mentee Retreat

As a freshman in college, there are many things to look forward to in the first weeks of school. As a Leadership Advancement Scholar, there are even more things to look forward to in your first few weeks of school and there is one thing that us Freshman talk about for weeks… Mentor/Mentee Retreat.

One of the really special things about LAS is the Mentor/Mentee pairings that you receive throughout your college career. When you get accepted into LAS as a senior in high school, there is a process set up so that every incoming freshman receives a mentor throughout your college career. As a sophomore, you will receive your own mentee to help guide through their years here at CMU. This is one of the most fun parts of LAS.

Within the first few weeks of being at CMU, the freshman and sophomore mentor/mentee pairs go on a retreat weekend to Eagle Village to get to know their mentor/mentee and learn how to work with and support each other. This experience is something that I know I will never forget and I’m so excited to take my mentee to next year.

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My mentor is Morgan Clark. Morgan and I are a special duo because we are pretty much a hot mess all of the time. I actually had the opportunity to hangout and get to know Morgan before the retreat which made my experience so much more fun because I was already comfortable with and loved Morgan. We discovered before retreat that we have awful luck and are both physically incapable of doing anything remotely athletic so we knew that retreat would be a struggle. The best part is that we were excited to do it anyways.

If there is one thing that I’ve learned from Morgan at retreat and simply from having her in my life it is to push yourself. Like I said before, Morgan and I knew that we would struggle on most activities at retreat. I mean if it puts it in perspective for you, Morgan and I each counted 30+ bruises and scratches on our bodies after that weekend. But our motto was that if we were going to do bad, we might as well try our hardest. So yes, if there was a way to make any activity more difficult for us, we shrugged our sholders and and said “why not” even though there are a thousand reasons that two unathletic girls should not try to be athletic.

One way that Morgan and I pushed ourselves was rock climbing. I have not been rock climbing since age 6 and at gymnastics class.. I knew that this would not be easy. But we decided to do it anyways. And to make things better, we chose to tie ourselves together while climbing. If we’re going to go down hard, why not go down trying our hardest, am I right? The best part about this was that we actually didn’t fail. Morgan and I made it all the way to the top of the wall tied together. While it wasn’t easy and there were multiple times that the words “Morgan I literally can’t do it” came out of my mouth, Morgan continued to encourage me and help me figure out a way I could do it.

img_0030The next thing that we did that I’m still not quite sure how was “the wall”. The wall was an activity that we did with other mentor/mentee pairs where we have to get everyone over a giant wall using just our teammates. This may sound easy but let me tell ya…. no. While at this point Morgan and I had already said we don’t care what it is that we’re faced with this weekend, we’re trying everything, I really really did not think this one was going to happen. And to my surprise with these doubtful thoughts rolling through my head, Morgan volunteers to go first. This is a shining of example of where Morgan has taught me to step out of my comfort zone. Morgan knew how difficult this activity was in general but then she stepped out of her comfort zone and pushed herself to go first.

So if you ask me about my absolute most memorable moment from mentor mentee retreat, it would be the high ropes course. Morgan and I were both to say, at the least, scared as Hell. We tried to make jokes about it and laugh it out but lets be honest, nobody enjoys dangling in the air on cords trying to walk across thin ropes. So what did Morgan and I do? Well… we said we are already freaking out so why not just go all out and blindfold ourselves in the air too. Everyone told us how ridiculous we looked and how loud our screams were when we would fall because we could not see anything. We were also told good job for pushing ourselves to do things that we aren’t comfortable doing. I am extremely confident in saying that I would never have done that without Morgan and I’m so happy that we did. While there were times when being able to see would have helped us a lot, completing an obstacle successfully without seeing, I felt so accomplished doing something I never would have thought I could.

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One thing that Morgan and I tried that we didn’t necessarily excel in but I give us points for trying was the ladder in the high ropes course. The ladder was just a bunch of 4 by 4 pieces of wood hanging from cables in a ladder that dangled and swung from the ceiling. perfect-picWe saw it and, again, shrugged our shoulders and thought “why not”. There were 8 bars on this ladder from floor to ceiling. We made it to the fourth and while it was physically draining, our goal when starting was just to make it to the third bar. We really did almost give up. I mean really we sat on the third bar for twenty minutes contemplating attempting the next level. We then spent 30 minutes trying to get to the fourth. Then, when we decided that we had already exceeded our goals and wanted to go down, Morgan fell on the wrong side of the ladder and there was no way for us to get down except do it all over again so that her cord was on the right side of the ladder to be able to get down. Literally writing this blog right now I am laughing because we were so amused by the fact that we had to do it all over again that we just laughed for 10 minutes. We barely made it to the 4th level the first time.. how were we going to do it again.. Honestly this was a disaster and took way longer than it should have, but we did it. This taught me that when things go wrong, you laugh about it, and you pick yourself up and keep going. Although I think this ladder was where all 30+ bruises of ours came from and we were sore for the week following, this was the most fun part of mentor/mentee retreat.

I can honestly say that this was a weekend that I will never forget and I think that without this to start off my freshman year, I would not have had the same experience this first semester. I would not have pushed myself socially, academically, and physically in the ways that I have had I not learned from Morgan during the mentor/mentee retreat that I can literally do anything if I try.

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take” -Wayne Gretzky